I walked away from a great position with a terrible commute. One week in, I called the manager and told him I was leaving, with nothing else lined up and life keeps bringing me abundance. We have to respect ourselves enough to walk away when it just doesn't work for us. ❤
The biggest lesson I learned: choosing yourself is not selfish, it is your right. You have to do that for yourself. And it started to change my whole life. Thank you for this amazing video. 💖
@JPcommunicates yeah, exatly. Society teach us 'be kind person, dedicate yourself to others, don't choose what you really want because is it selfish, don't say your real feelings, you have to do this if you want to be good person' and bla bla. We never learn what is our real feelings, what we can actually feel, say, love, hate or etc. When we want to choose our mind's words, our heart's words, so 'ourselves', society say 'selfish' to us. So when we want to choose our feelings, our own rights, we just choose ourselfs. That is our rights. That's what actually we choose. not 'choose ourself', be 'ourself'.
What do you want to protect? Time is nothing what you can protect. You can just choose how you want to use it. Saying no. Just tells the other person what you can't and don't want to do. It's just a choice.
“Protect your agenda” resonated with me so deeply. As a creative working a 9-5 job, it can be hard to remember to hold space for my own agenda. The to do list is never ending and my own agenda always gets pushed to the bottom of the list. I can also admit that I don’t always utilize the pockets of time that I have. Thanks for the reminder!
you're so welcome!! yes, i totally know what you mean. mine also gets pushed to the bottom, it's so natural. so we have to continue to be conscious to choose ourselves, at least some of the time. thank you for your comment!
This is 100% me so don’t feel bad! A lot of us do what is REQUIRED to “survive” verse doing what we dream of which could push us past survival and into living life
I spent my life worrying about and taking care of my dad helping to achieve his ambition, only to realize that he doesn’t care about me. Now, at 31, I’ve decided to start over. Self love.
I walked away from a six figure job and took one year off to focus on that space I ended up manifesting a wonderful relationship with my Now husband having a daughter and starting my own business. It was definitely scary. I did not have a roadmap, but I knew that I couldn’t “know” my way to a “YES”
wow i love this, what kind of business, that's so exciting!!! it is definitely scary and there is NO roadmap, you just have to feel around in the dark. your intuition was definitely pulling you into the life you were supposed to live!
This hit hard. I sacrificed 14 years of my prime working my ass off for another woman's dream. I broke free and am now in a gig with more free time, but I'm only now getting back my mojo.
Dang. Sorry that happened to you. I think men will do well to realize that they're not the answer to a woman's problems and dreams. I get that men are inherently programmed to give like that, but no human can save another human from their problems and magically make all of their dreams come true. I'm saying this as a woman. Do not let a woman be dependent on you. Not only are you screwing her over as a human being, but you're also screwing yourself out of your own life. I understand marriage is about sacrifice, but you can't sacrifice yourself and who you are for someone else. I'm saying this as a woman who is somewhat traditional.
She served you a great lesson that could've been worse. The Universe works in miraculous ways. Eventually you end up where you want to be but there has to be growth made along the way 🙌
I start at 3am to 6am. I exercise for one hour and read for two hours. I have done what needed to be done then the rest of the day happens.. Morning is best time, no distractions no one is up at that time.. Saying no is hard to do, but we must respect ourself. How many times we said yes, and regretted what were doing. Business is meeting others and spending 5 ministers , to listen what is going on. The forklift driver, the security guard and always seeing what is happening.. Macavalli. 😅
I have been at mine for 11. I'm so drained mentally that I feel it's time to take a sabbatical leave in order to re-energize and come back. I have sensed and accepted my calling of something greater. To 2025 and beyond.
I work in a highly stress field that’s easy to burned out. I decided to take a pay cut and go part time in order to focus my mental and physical health and focus on developing real lifetime hobbies outside of work and social media doomscrolling. Cheers to 2025 and focusing on our dreams 🎉❤
This all I need. I am a college student who always gives too much, but after this semester I started realizing that it is not my job to make everyone feel included or make deep connections and give my time to people who do not deserve it. I decided that I am not answering emails, doing homework, or texting classmates after 8 pm or before 9 am. That is my time and mine only. Thank you for making this videos, I truly need an older woman that guides me. I am a first generation college student and it is easy to feel lost, yet your video its like a hug to my soul.
O M G I made that realization very recently and it's been so so liberating - time, energy, social burden, prioritizing spending time and connecting with the people I actually like especially in group settings. I'm happy for you on your journey 😊
Learn and practice this NOW!!!! YES!! I am 55 and I wish I would have put myself first, now I can't, I'm caregiving for my folks & they genuinely need me & soon enough I'll be utterly alone :( so please go within & do what feels good to YOU!!!
I'm so glad to hear so many people of older generations coming out to say these kind of things. You guys know better than anyone at this point, how much is at stake if we let ourselves be tied to work and realism despite the struggles. It feels like we have to because of the economy right now, but there arw always options. Just because a dream is unrealistic, doesn't make it impossible
As someone in their 20's, I only listen to credible people and some of my determining factors for such is experience and maturity (mentally, emotionally, etc.). So when you started to breakdown where the thoughts in your head came from ("was it from my ego/pride that I can say this to others...") I knew you have good self-awareness and I got hooked immediately. I am grateful for this video and I wish you the best in your own thing!
Wow I thought it was just me dealing with this at this time. Are you doing anything to gain clarity in your life? I’m thinking of taking 3 days to fast and meditate.
@@MarieBaiinterestingly enough I have been considering getting back into meditation. I can come up with a plan and my why but then slack on the follow through. Analysis paralysis is the problem. Recently I had a meeting with a career coach to develop my business plan for an idea I’ve had for years.
As an Asian woman in my late 30s, I resonated with that “raise” story and view compensation as a top factor in working for a company. Long story short, I was denied a change in my role/salary after positive reviews over 5 years and soon learned that other employees felt it was a toxic and racist company. I now view salary and promotion as a sign of how management views their employees. Subscribed and appreciate your insight!
I love that your video started with discernment!! Discernment has been weighing heavy on mind as is being intentional with how I spend my time/energy. I'm so glad I found your videos at this time in my creative journey, love your wisdom!!
Thank you for the 3 tips!!! I randomly stumbled to this video after doing my morning meditation for my mental clarity! Now, my decision to protect my time is solidified. Couple weeks ago, I had stepped into protecting my time and prioritizing my self-care. Then, some acquaintances are inviting me to go for a coffee date. I don't wanna disappoint them so I often use euphemism by saying "yes and will schedule it" but not whoelehearted yes because I feel like my precious time is taken away and then would feel bad for doing so when I get home. Now, I am stepping into my power!!
Grateful for YT algorithm for suggesting this video because your video makes me feel like my emotions are validated. I'm working long hours in my current job with constant overtime and the too much stress made me go back to continue writing my novel. And now it's making me frustrated because my work is getting too much of my time. And I realize I should really be setting some boundaries so I can get more time for myself and my creative pursuit.
Always make your dream a priority ! Dont listen shiit of what people are saying ! They are not you ! You different I’ve been seeing that confirmed in my life each time ! And reflecting about the fact that if I had listened to people I wouldn’t have done what I’m doing and who I am today ! ✌🏾
I clicked on this video randomly, so GLAD i did!! Such an eye opener. I’m newly 20 and took a leap year to work instead of pursuing college career, I noticed how much time and energy i put into working rather than focusing on that and will be going back to school this winter semester with a new year resolution that i can start early and have a practice i can use into the rest of my future :) thank you so much your words are inspiring ! Can’t wait to use my discerning views into the world to have a proper agenda, and saying no more often!
I think most people should work a few years before deciding what to actually do with their lives. College is actually not for the majority of people, and people tend to immature and mor0nic when they're that young. Working for a few years will instill a sense of maturity and reality in people; college is in fact not free and people will see this when they see taxes taken from their paycheck. Good for you for taking this path. There's seriously no need to rush going to school. I hope you do well at achieving your goals. It sounds like you will based on your mindset. 😊
11:22 really resonated with me. I wanna become a writer and hustle for that, I work from 7am to 3pm a shitty job in a kitchen and I wake up at 4 every morning to write until I leave for work, go to the gym after work and go back home to write. Starting with 1000 words per day helps! I wanna speak up on depression and mental health through modern characters, people who go through that without knowing what it is, etc. I think it should be spoken about way more in novels and I have faith I'll make it! Your words were precise and empowering ! Hard work for yourself is an absolute necessity. Working as an employee for a business/vision that's not yours is wasted energy (if your working to pay the bills I mean). When you said you HAVE to be a leader of your own ideas and concepts, have that vision that no one has, your unique vision needs a leader! You found the right words. I needed that, God bless yall.
I sincerely hope your dream comes true!!! I have the same dream as you, to become a successful novelist & screenplay writer + to become a successful singer-songwriter. So far I only learned how to write songs by myself. I wanted to write my verse novel but I was too scared to write it, because the plot of the verse novel is related to my painful past and I thought that it would be painful to remember everything. But now I realize that that was just a silly fear, because when I write those sad and painful feelings pour out of me, out of my body, I can finally express them in some way and to not let them buried and hurt me, they turn into something positive.They turn into art. By the way what made you want to become a writer? What is your motivation?
Immediately subscribed. I needed to hear this. This was SO reaffirming. Some times we need others to say we are allowed to say NO even though we have every right to. Thank you!
My plan is to work up until my vacation to Japan next year, saved a lot from my current hellhole. Come back, relax for a few days, and get my Drivers and Forklift license.
This just hit me. I feel undervalued as an employee in my 9-5 and you talking about not giving them more time off the clock. I took time off work to attend my grandpas funeral and I get a notification on my phone from them of my performance review and to look over it whenever I have a chance! They could not wait for me to return back after the weekend They knew and even said their condolences the day before how rude!! Love this video thank you
excuse me what?!? first of all, i'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa passing. ALSO this is soooo insane. i'm so glad you realize that this kind of behavior is a) so weird, b) inappropriate, c) RUDE, and d) just not kind or caring.
Wow. This really spoke to me and gave me chills. Thank you for this. I have suffered from people-pleasing, burning out, and working on goals that really were not my goals. I'm turning 30 next year and I feel low energy at my current position and don't even have dreams of promotions. I have always dreamt of owning my own vintage business and after burnout, I just started reselling as a side hustle. After a month, I was amazed myself how much money I had made from my side hustle. I wish I had started sooner. Now I have I have no idea what is lining up for me, but I just now in my gut that I do not wanna hustle in corporate. Thank you for your words.
WOWWOWWOWWW I am feeling so much right now. I am not protecting my time enough. Period. I’m 36. Time to finally respect myself and get my shit TO👏GE👏THER👏
I recently set boundaries with people that just automatically use me as their wrench tool cause I needed my time to focus on things I want to do. As always, I turn out to be the bad person for saying NO. Astonished how I’m starting to see how people really just use me for their convenience
OMG, OMG, OMG. That part: "Gurl" (smacking hand). Gurl, I was smacking my hand with you. You don't even know -- wait, you do know. Gurl, you were talking to me. I swear you were - in my head, done read my mind. The struggle IS REAL. My son sent this to me and says, "Mom, you've got to see this video!" -- because he knows my struggle. This nagging ache of trying to claim my time back has become more prominent as I get older. You hit all the points, and some, plus one. I so needed this! New subbie!!! My son, too. 😊 THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, and THANK YOU!!! ❤❤
This really got me thinking.. I just became a mom a year ago, and I completely forgot about myself in the sense that I didn’t continue my studies anymore, going to the gym etc. I passed my driving exam after a month postpartum and I was so proud of myself because I had studied while pregnant. Sometimes I forget that although I have a child, my life doesn’t stop, and that if I don’t take care of myself how can I take care of my child, my home and be happy with my husband ? I realized if I continue this way I will end up so miserable and I want to be a good example to my son. I think it’s my time now and my time to really give myself the care I neeed. I feel I’m not fully healed after becoming a mother even after a year.. because I haven’t given myself enough time for ME. Thank you ❤️🙏
I'm not a mom but I fully agree. Me time is so important. It took a long time but I've learned to say no to others when I needed my me time. I still feel guilty from time to time but it's a work in progress!
12:19 “I didn’t have a crystal-clear vision. I didn’t have jack hit.” OMG I can relate! 😂 but it’s so true! I like how she speaks the truth. Made my heart smile.
Loved this so much. I’ve been struggling heavyyyy on always saying yes to other people and then getting so frustrated with myself for not prioritizing myself. Protecting my agenda, loveddd this thank you
I was just working before working hours, and i know there won’t be over time for working before, but i was feeling guilty for working remotely today. But, when i heard this video and even before the mid of it, i realized the reason for feeling overwhelmed and burnt out, and decided to stop until it’s working hours. Thank you so much dear
I understood the message of the video, but I wanted to say that I'm incredible grateful for the people that helped and me guidance about school, work and personal life even without knowing me. That's definitely change the path of my life
I saved your video for over a month and I finally got a chance to watch today. 11:52 That part!!!! I’ve been working for the MTA as a third party employee, waiting for the favorable union and benefits coming in house, but both the city and the company have been delaying and making vague promises. I started feeling like this after working 10 months. I am actually willing to take a pay cut, looking for a Medical billing as a CPB. Still looking and am more sure this is the right path as I can start my own billing business over working for the city. I am thankful that I watched this and has helped me not be afraid of taking risks. Thank you!!
Learning to say no might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s a skill worth mastering. You deserve peace, and sometimes, “no” is the bridge that leads you there ❤
Wow 9:37 - this is so real. If you’re not a leader, you become by default a follower. I just experienced this this week and had said yes. Thank you for this perspective, thank you thank you for the reminder
It’s crazy how today I planned to get my shit together and you pop up unprovoked. 😭😭💖💕 I’m so thankful you allowed yourself to be available for us, to share your precious time with us~
It’s so easy to get trapped in the ego stroking of prestige - especially in a hussle city like NYC. I’m 4 1/2 years in and stepping back to ask what I actually want versus what I’m being conditioned to strive for. This video came at the perfect time. I love your call to action to step up as a leader. We are all capable - we just have to make the choice 💪🏾
energy leakage, depletion of resources in so many forms. started to feel that there are so many mosquitos and vampires just sucking me empty of my internal resources..... i didnt want to feel bitter. being helpful, just want to stay in my own lane. making space for myself, protect my time..... protect my agenda
Fantastic video! Back in September, I also did the "NOPE" (with people, career and clutter) and am still in the process of making room for myself before taking my next creative step! Thanks for sharing the knowledge, I subscribed!
My husband and I just purchased a house across the country without telling anyone so that we will have a forced nope of space and distraction free zone. We don't know anyone, and we sort of just chose a "random" spot that sounded nice and boring. I'm so excited for the final embers of my current commitments to die out in the spring which after then when we can finally make the move. It's terrifying, but less about the negative "what ifs" and more about the opportunities and possibilities that lie ahead when I'm finally able to devote my time to my mission! Thanks for reminding me why I'm leaving town.
For me, the free labor introduction started in a yoga studio, it’s what they call “Sava”. You work for the owner for no payment because it’s good karma they said lol.
Dear Mandy ! I am so grateful for the Universe have given me the opportunity of watch this video! I totally agree when you say that time is the most precious thing in our lives. ❤
I appreciate your making such a great video with an insightful message for me as a grad student, especially since I was a bit burned out last year. I couldn't agree more with your thoughts, and I can't wait to become a better me by prioritizing myself. Cheers, and hope many good things come to you
I actually do this regularly. My Sat and Sun are for my own creative projects where no ones tell me what look right or wrong. It helps me create something I am passionate about and my style. But for Mon-Fri, I do respect my full time job and I do understand that I get paid to help others people dream come to life. oh and my Mon-Fri are crazy lol
My boss said “you’re gonna miss all this fuzziness when you leave, are you sure?” Well, it sounded as devil to my ears, pushing me away from the time I need so badly to get my shit done. I was literally crying when this video popped on my RUclips screen, afraid of bad decisions. I also don’t know if following my gut is the best option, but not trying would’ve cost my mental health. Thank you for sharing these invaluable insights, Mandy!
hi, your boss sounds annoying, LOL! honestly, like, what a weird guilt-trippy thing to say. not cool! you are on the right path, and don't listen to them!!!
This is great advice. I drain myself every day at corporate grind. 2025 I'm going to look at my schedule like a scientist and super block 🚫 out time for ME. I never do this! 🥹 I'm done living this way. I want to swim 🏊♀️ 40 laps per day am pm, jog a few days a week and do yoga 2x a week. Thank you for this discussion. You are a blessing to us. Thank you 🌷
Let's go!! Nobody knows about the future but I'm here to take control of mine because I'm the only one responsible and able for it. 18 years in the game of life and I am figuring myself bit by bit. Thank you for sharing your message!!
I've had these thoughts lately. I'm 31. That my energy is lots lower than it was in my 20s and soon ill wish I had the energy I have now. I'm going to take the leap and bet on me, I feel I have the courage and the vision. Thank you for this video ❤
You popped up in my recommendations, and i decided to give this video a listen tonight. Everything you said here are my exact thoughts and feelings, its as if the entire world gaslights you into believing their needs and visions are more valuable or important than yours! What's worse is that they have no regard to hold much or if ANY space for you, because they are too busy being absorbed into their own agenda. Being able to start carving out that time and space, even when my business is trying to grow and saying no to someone else utilizing my skills and abilities was a huge reassuring message for me to hear. This was the first time I heard anyone else, aside from my own inner dialogue coming to this exact conclusion. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, and I wish you a wonderful Happy New Year of 2025. May many more blessings come your way 💗🙏🏼✨
This video stumbled across my page after weeks of feeling stuck, burnt out, and paralyzed when acting toward my dreams. AThankyou, thank you, THANK YOU for posting this. I am still in awe of these new ways of thinking, and I can't wait for the challenge of saying no to things and sticking to my agenda. Sending tons of love!!!!
Wow, this is on time. I've been thinking about this for a while. Sacrificing my time for others. Being there for people rather than myself. I felt like i dont spend time and invest in me that much. Ive become lazy when it comes to my life. I find myself just scrolling away for hours, and i know my youth is so precious. I should be exploring the world and myself...
new watcher, how did you know i am a perfectionist/high achiever? Then I realised that I'm watching this at 9pm on a Sunday in my downtime. This advice is spot on the sort of things that keep cropping up as I graduate and slowly join the working world. I do my best to keep my work in my working hours. And being part-time, that means that there is a lot of moments where I'm not working and I feel like I sort of should be, even when I have met my working hours for the week. You are do right. Don't feel bad. I'm doing my best. And this is my time to enjoy.
Wow, this is exaclty how I went through a severe burnt out and depression. I'm still recovering from the damage but I'm super glad I was finaly able to block everything and spent a complete alone time for months. I stoped doing anything, meeting anybody, being on messenger or social media. After about 3 months of resting, I started to realized what I had been doing wrong for myself, which is what you are explaining over here. I wish I knew this sooner. I'm so much happier doing so much less now. 😊
I subscribed because at 60 years old I still don’t know how to put myself first and I am often depressed I thought when I retired it would be time enough at last (twilight zone toss-😂) but no because I am too busy still people pleasing and worrying that someone will be mad at me! But sorry not sorry 2025 is the year for change!
every time i hear about a life coach, they always happen to be the most interesting and wisest person in the room. they are fr your life’s cheerleader.
I really resonated with this video… i have yet to put my degree to use, I love the idea of working with it… yet there’s this pressure , family & societal to have children because “it will only get harder” but i am not ready for that I want to pursue my dream without pressures
you just need enough money to survive... tackle that goal and go for that dream! student loans will be ther when you're on the other side LOL it can wait.😂
This is some of the realest shit I've heard Mandy.. As someone who was laid off from a company that literally told me "everything was gonna be fine" a week prior and decided to repost my job position 2 weeks prior to my last day without notifying me of departure, (I checked the company website and saw the position for a 3rd LESS than what I was paid.) Best thing to happened now I get to focus on a new career path. All the people I supported and thought I was cool with never reached out or nothing... Maybe 2 or 3 people but it be like that I got to make my dreams come true. This just makes it easier for me to get to where I need to be 💯
Thank you so much for this video! I finished my master's in graphic design this year, and have been in a bit of a limbo ever since... Managed to work on a really cool project that paid well, but I have no interested in working in a design studio or agency making someone else's dream a reality. However, the pressure to have something figured out is really crippling, so thank you for making me realize that it's okay to keep this field open and protecting this space, so that my yes can flourish!
Girlll!!! This is probably the single most relatable, helpful, and actually tangible video I’ve ever watched about this topic. So many truths in this. Most videos are regurgitated bullshit we’ve heard a million times or lofty thoughts that are lacking actionable steps
!!! this is so nice. it's honestly so kind because i try really hard to write everything so that it's real and original. like i can't stand regurgitated BS either so i'm trying to create the content that i would want to watch. this is why this comment is so supportive!
The way you live your day is the way you live your life! You can never ever under any circumstances, get that day back. A No you have, a Yes you can get.
This is such an important message! I’m 27 and figuring out what I want to do -- and releasing the idea of “HOW”. Thank you for this conviction and passion. Appreciate you ✨
I’m so glad I discovered this channel. I’m turning 30 this year and realized I was giving my time to so many things and people that I didn’t give to myself. I’m currently on my own journey to starting all over again and refocusing on myself. I got married, moved out, looking at going back to school again and re-evaluating what I want and need.
this video came up to me in such a right time!! 💗 I have been seriously planning to quit my job since the start of the year (even though it’s been in the back of my mind for years at this point) and I have a very important event coming up soon that I have to take weeks off work for. I have been planning to quit just before that. Right now though there is a lot of going on at my job and it’s very hectic which made me question if I am doing the right decision or ”letting others down”. Especially when I don’t really have a plan what I am going to do next. But I rarely choose myself so now I have to. I really need rest after a very physical job and take time for my creative pursuits. Time to put myself first and not keep burning myself out 💕
I genuinely appreciate your time and effort in making this video. Im 28 and I’ve found myself in these exact situations all year long. Thank you for ur advice ❤
Thank you for saying this, I’ve been struggling to balance between “work” and my passion, I’m so burnt out once I come back from work, sometimes I distract myself by focusing on a personal goal that is also not my business!! We really need this community so thank you
I really needed this video. I recently lost my mom, and it’s been hard to find motivation for anything. I’ve been questioning the future and whether it’s worth it. While I know these feelings are part of the grieving process, I don’t want this grief to consume me or define my life.
You described my life like teacher. I give so much of my time and I can't do my own things (my languages studies, my draws, my paitings), even saying no sometimes and be seen as a person who doesn't like work, I just abandonned my art last year. It's hard think about this.
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I walked away from a great position with a terrible commute. One week in, I called the manager and told him I was leaving, with nothing else lined up and life keeps bringing me abundance. We have to respect ourselves enough to walk away when it just doesn't work for us. ❤
yessss! i see you creating amazing content and inspiring others with your story!!! go get it!! i love that. yes to all of the abundance.
I just did the same .. my last day is tomorrow.. your message makes me so happy .
Just subscribed ❤
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“Leadership often means standing alone in the cold and having a vision before anybody else knows what the hell you’re even doing”
FACTS
Leadership means that you have people who want you to lead. You lead them, which means you are supposed to know what they want.
The biggest lesson I learned: choosing yourself is not selfish, it is your right. You have to do that for yourself. And it started to change my whole life.
Thank you for this amazing video. 💖
Well said! Thanks for sharing ❤
You don't choose yourself because you are yourself. Doing for feels right for you has nothing to do with choosing you.
@JPcommunicates yeah, exatly. Society teach us 'be kind person, dedicate yourself to others, don't choose what you really want because is it selfish, don't say your real feelings, you have to do this if you want to be good person' and bla bla. We never learn what is our real feelings, what we can actually feel, say, love, hate or etc. When we want to choose our mind's words, our heart's words, so 'ourselves', society say 'selfish' to us. So when we want to choose our feelings, our own rights, we just choose ourselfs. That is our rights. That's what actually we choose. not 'choose ourself', be 'ourself'.
.Protect your time
.Protect your agenda
.Saying NO will lead to your YES!
What do you want to protect? Time is nothing what you can protect. You can just choose how you want to use it. Saying no. Just tells the other person what you can't and don't want to do. It's just a choice.
“Protect your agenda” resonated with me so deeply. As a creative working a 9-5 job, it can be hard to remember to hold space for my own agenda. The to do list is never ending and my own agenda always gets pushed to the bottom of the list. I can also admit that I don’t always utilize the pockets of time that I have. Thanks for the reminder!
you're so welcome!! yes, i totally know what you mean. mine also gets pushed to the bottom, it's so natural. so we have to continue to be conscious to choose ourselves, at least some of the time. thank you for your comment!
*suluxy* almost identical, i couldn´t see the difference until you said which one was replica & authentic. Anyway thanks for sharing.
This is 100% me so don’t feel bad! A lot of us do what is REQUIRED to “survive” verse doing what we dream of which could push us past survival and into living life
@@iam.shaenatelove thisss
I spent my life worrying about and taking care of my dad helping to achieve his ambition, only to realize that he doesn’t care about me. Now, at 31, I’ve decided to start over. Self love.
Love that for you! You deserve the best.
Some don’t come to this realization till there 50s or 60s!! You are young and can go on with a peace of mind. Have a great year.
@@kristenenation thank you 🥺😘
It be our own family. Same here
Self-love just means you accept who you are. Doing what is right for you is self-care.
I walked away from a six figure job and took one year off to focus on that space I ended up manifesting a wonderful relationship with my Now husband having a daughter and starting my own business. It was definitely scary. I did not have a roadmap, but I knew that I couldn’t “know” my way to a “YES”
wow i love this, what kind of business, that's so exciting!!! it is definitely scary and there is NO roadmap, you just have to feel around in the dark. your intuition was definitely pulling you into the life you were supposed to live!
This hit hard. I sacrificed 14 years of my prime working my ass off for another woman's dream. I broke free and am now in a gig with more free time, but I'm only now getting back my mojo.
Dang. Sorry that happened to you. I think men will do well to realize that they're not the answer to a woman's problems and dreams. I get that men are inherently programmed to give like that, but no human can save another human from their problems and magically make all of their dreams come true. I'm saying this as a woman. Do not let a woman be dependent on you. Not only are you screwing her over as a human being, but you're also screwing yourself out of your own life. I understand marriage is about sacrifice, but you can't sacrifice yourself and who you are for someone else. I'm saying this as a woman who is somewhat traditional.
She served you a great lesson that could've been worse. The Universe works in miraculous ways. Eventually you end up where you want to be but there has to be growth made along the way 🙌
Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is uniquely your own.
10/10
I start at 3am to 6am. I exercise for one hour and read for two hours. I have done what needed to be done then the rest of the day happens.. Morning is best time, no distractions no one is up at that time..
Saying no is hard to do, but we must respect ourself.
How many times we said yes, and regretted what were doing.
Business is meeting others and spending 5 ministers , to listen what is going on. The forklift driver, the security guard and always seeing what is happening.. Macavalli. 😅
morning is the best time! say it louder for those in the back!
What time do you go to sleep?
@ 8pm About 7 hrs. The benefit is no distractions in morning no social Meade. Just exercise and then read.
@@Californiansurferdo you have school aged kids?
Thanks 🎉
This message found me. 6 years at my job, and I'm so ready to leave. Thank you so much.
you can do it!
I have been at mine for 11. I'm so drained mentally that I feel it's time to take a sabbatical leave in order to re-energize and come back. I have sensed and accepted my calling of something greater. To 2025 and beyond.
Same!!
I work in a highly stress field that’s easy to burned out. I decided to take a pay cut and go part time in order to focus my mental and physical health and focus on developing real lifetime hobbies outside of work and social media doomscrolling. Cheers to 2025 and focusing on our dreams 🎉❤
As soon as you said “discernment” I clicked subscribe so fast.
me too
Its like you wrote this comment for me… i clicked in thid by accident scrolling. I was like wth is this. “Discernent”. Then i stay and and listen.
Why
Girl SAME!
Same!
Making space for guitar in my day has changed my life, i am a workaholic but making this a priority has helped alleviate stress for me
I recently dropped all my time wasters for my guitar as well 😂 wish you all the luck🤞🏽 in world.
Workaholics run from life.
This all I need. I am a college student who always gives too much, but after this semester I started realizing that it is not my job to make everyone feel included or make deep connections and give my time to people who do not deserve it. I decided that I am not answering emails, doing homework, or texting classmates after 8 pm or before 9 am. That is my time and mine only. Thank you for making this videos, I truly need an older woman that guides me. I am a first generation college student and it is easy to feel lost, yet your video its like a hug to my soul.
O M G I made that realization very recently and it's been so so liberating - time, energy, social burden, prioritizing spending time and connecting with the people I actually like especially in group settings. I'm happy for you on your journey 😊
Learn and practice this NOW!!!! YES!! I am 55 and I wish I would have put myself first, now I can't, I'm caregiving for my folks & they genuinely need me & soon enough I'll be utterly alone :( so please go within & do what feels good to YOU!!!
“Shoot the sh*t” omg I died laughing. I wasn’t expecting that!! ❤
I'm so glad to hear so many people of older generations coming out to say these kind of things. You guys know better than anyone at this point, how much is at stake if we let ourselves be tied to work and realism despite the struggles. It feels like we have to because of the economy right now, but there arw always options. Just because a dream is unrealistic, doesn't make it impossible
auntie mandy is heeeeere!!!! thank you so much for watching and sharing.
Mandy, honey, you look so young and glowing ❤️
So true my work is eating into my free time. Not because I need to work but I mentally drained nearly everyday and I am feeling burned out its awful
Discernment vs people pleasing. Very important to weigh cost vs benefit. 😊
As someone in their 20's, I only listen to credible people and some of my determining factors for such is experience and maturity (mentally, emotionally, etc.). So when you started to breakdown where the thoughts in your head came from ("was it from my ego/pride that I can say this to others...") I knew you have good self-awareness and I got hooked immediately. I am grateful for this video and I wish you the best in your own thing!
wow that's such a compliment thank you so much for noticing, and also for being a thoughtful viewer, this means so much!! thank you.
Yes I’m 39 and I have spent too many years debating on what I want to do 😩
Same 🤯
Wow I thought it was just me dealing with this at this time. Are you doing anything to gain clarity in your life?
I’m thinking of taking 3 days to fast and meditate.
@@MarieBaiinterestingly enough I have been considering getting back into meditation. I can come up with a plan and my why but then slack on the follow through. Analysis paralysis is the problem. Recently I had a meeting with a career coach to develop my business plan for an idea I’ve had for years.
As an Asian woman in my late 30s, I resonated with that “raise” story and view compensation as a top factor in working for a company. Long story short, I was denied a change in my role/salary after positive reviews over 5 years and soon learned that other employees felt it was a toxic and racist company. I now view salary and promotion as a sign of how management views their employees. Subscribed and appreciate your insight!
I love that your video started with discernment!! Discernment has been weighing heavy on mind as is being intentional with how I spend my time/energy. I'm so glad I found your videos at this time in my creative journey, love your wisdom!!
thank you so so much! yes, i feel like it's this subtle shift of awareness but can make such a difference. i appreciate your comment so much!
Thank you for the 3 tips!!!
I randomly stumbled to this video after doing my morning meditation for my mental clarity!
Now, my decision to protect my time is solidified. Couple weeks ago, I had stepped into protecting my time and prioritizing my self-care. Then, some acquaintances are inviting me to go for a coffee date.
I don't wanna disappoint them so I often use euphemism by saying "yes and will schedule it" but not whoelehearted yes because I feel like my precious time is taken away and then would feel bad for doing so when I get home.
Now, I am stepping into my power!!
Grateful for YT algorithm for suggesting this video because your video makes me feel like my emotions are validated. I'm working long hours in my current job with constant overtime and the too much stress made me go back to continue writing my novel. And now it's making me frustrated because my work is getting too much of my time. And I realize I should really be setting some boundaries so I can get more time for myself and my creative pursuit.
Same
Always make your dream a priority ! Dont listen shiit of what people are saying ! They are not you ! You different I’ve been seeing that confirmed in my life each time ! And reflecting about the fact that if I had listened to people I wouldn’t have done what I’m doing and who I am today ! ✌🏾
I clicked on this video randomly, so GLAD i did!! Such an eye opener. I’m newly 20 and took a leap year to work instead of pursuing college career, I noticed how much time and energy i put into working rather than focusing on that and will be going back to school this winter semester with a new year resolution that i can start early and have a practice i can use into the rest of my future :) thank you so much your words are inspiring ! Can’t wait to use my discerning views into the world to have a proper agenda, and saying no more often!
I think most people should work a few years before deciding what to actually do with their lives. College is actually not for the majority of people, and people tend to immature and mor0nic when they're that young. Working for a few years will instill a sense of maturity and reality in people; college is in fact not free and people will see this when they see taxes taken from their paycheck.
Good for you for taking this path. There's seriously no need to rush going to school. I hope you do well at achieving your goals. It sounds like you will based on your mindset. 😊
Yeah..i pay for my own college! So it was more of a break of breaking my bank lol! Taxes suck.
11:22 really resonated with me. I wanna become a writer and hustle for that, I work from 7am to 3pm a shitty job in a kitchen and I wake up at 4 every morning to write until I leave for work, go to the gym after work and go back home to write. Starting with 1000 words per day helps! I wanna speak up on depression and mental health through modern characters, people who go through that without knowing what it is, etc. I think it should be spoken about way more in novels and I have faith I'll make it!
Your words were precise and empowering ! Hard work for yourself is an absolute necessity. Working as an employee for a business/vision that's not yours is wasted energy (if your working to pay the bills I mean). When you said you HAVE to be a leader of your own ideas and concepts, have that vision that no one has, your unique vision needs a leader! You found the right words.
I needed that, God bless yall.
I sincerely hope your dream comes true!!!
I have the same dream as you, to become a successful novelist & screenplay writer + to become a successful singer-songwriter.
So far I only learned how to write songs by myself.
I wanted to write my verse novel but I was too scared to write it, because the plot of the verse novel is related to my painful past and I thought that it would be painful to remember everything.
But now I realize that that was just a silly fear, because when I write those sad and painful feelings pour out of me, out of my body, I can finally express them in some way and to not let them buried and hurt me, they turn into something positive.They turn into art.
By the way what made you want to become a writer? What is your motivation?
Immediately subscribed. I needed to hear this. This was SO reaffirming. Some times we need others to say we are allowed to say NO even though we have every right to. Thank you!
thank you so much. yes, we literally have EVERY RIGHT to say no. a hundred percent.
My plan is to work up until my vacation to Japan next year, saved a lot from my current hellhole. Come back, relax for a few days, and get my Drivers and Forklift license.
Hands down one of the most valuable videos I've ever seen on RUclips. Straight to the point and clear. You didn't waste a second. Absolute value..
wow thank you so much! i think because i'm new to YT it didn't even occur to me to do like music or intros or anything LOL just straight to the point.
This just hit me. I feel undervalued as an employee in my 9-5 and you talking about not giving them more time off the clock. I took time off work to attend my grandpas funeral and I get a notification on my phone from them of my performance review and to look over it whenever I have a chance! They could not wait for me to return back after the weekend
They knew and even said their condolences the day before how rude!! Love this video thank you
excuse me what?!? first of all, i'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa passing. ALSO this is soooo insane. i'm so glad you realize that this kind of behavior is a) so weird, b) inappropriate, c) RUDE, and d) just not kind or caring.
I believe nothing is ever random. Thank you. Your message connected at the perfect time.❤
Wow. This really spoke to me and gave me chills. Thank you for this. I have suffered from people-pleasing, burning out, and working on goals that really were not my goals. I'm turning 30 next year and I feel low energy at my current position and don't even have dreams of promotions. I have always dreamt of owning my own vintage business and after burnout, I just started reselling as a side hustle. After a month, I was amazed myself how much money I had made from my side hustle. I wish I had started sooner. Now I have I have no idea what is lining up for me, but I just now in my gut that I do not wanna hustle in corporate. Thank you for your words.
had to watch this twice, this really hit home.
okay!! i love that!
There is GREATNESS INSIDE OF YOU WAITING TO BE BORN . 👏🏿 👏🏿
WOWWOWWOWWW I am feeling so much right now. I am not protecting my time enough. Period. I’m 36. Time to finally respect myself and get my shit TO👏GE👏THER👏
you totally already have it together!!! but yes, if we keep protecting our time we will have it even MORE together than we ever thought possible.
I recently set boundaries with people that just automatically use me as their wrench tool cause I needed my time to focus on things I want to do. As always, I turn out to be the bad person for saying NO. Astonished how I’m starting to see how people really just use me for their convenience
OMG, OMG, OMG. That part: "Gurl" (smacking hand). Gurl, I was smacking my hand with you. You don't even know -- wait, you do know. Gurl, you were talking to me. I swear you were - in my head, done read my mind. The struggle IS REAL. My son sent this to me and says, "Mom, you've got to see this video!" -- because he knows my struggle. This nagging ache of trying to claim my time back has become more prominent as I get older. You hit all the points, and some, plus one. I so needed this! New subbie!!! My son, too. 😊 THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, and THANK YOU!!! ❤❤
omg i love this so much hahaha i can't believe your son sent it to you, that's sooo nice! thank you both for watching and supporting!!
This really got me thinking.. I just became a mom a year ago, and I completely forgot about myself in the sense that I didn’t continue my studies anymore, going to the gym etc. I passed my driving exam after a month postpartum and I was so proud of myself because I had studied while pregnant. Sometimes I forget that although I have a child, my life doesn’t stop, and that if I don’t take care of myself how can I take care of my child, my home and be happy with my husband ? I realized if I continue this way I will end up so miserable and I want to be a good example to my son. I think it’s my time now and my time to really give myself the care I neeed. I feel I’m not fully healed after becoming a mother even after a year.. because I haven’t given myself enough time for ME. Thank you ❤️🙏
I'm not a mom but I fully agree. Me time is so important. It took a long time but I've learned to say no to others when I needed my me time. I still feel guilty from time to time but it's a work in progress!
12:19 “I didn’t have a crystal-clear vision. I didn’t have jack hit.” OMG I can relate! 😂 but it’s so true! I like how she speaks the truth. Made my heart smile.
Loved this so much. I’ve been struggling heavyyyy on always saying yes to other people and then getting so frustrated with myself for not prioritizing myself. Protecting my agenda, loveddd this thank you
17:17 “there’s the dream of something, and then there’s the reality of it” ELPHABA!!!!
it's meeeee!!!
The RUclips algorithm did it’s thing helping me find you! Thanks Mandy for your words.
YT algo is so great! thank you for watching!!
I was just working before working hours, and i know there won’t be over time for working before, but i was feeling guilty for working remotely today. But, when i heard this video and even before the mid of it, i realized the reason for feeling overwhelmed and burnt out, and decided to stop until it’s working hours. Thank you so much dear
I understood the message of the video, but I wanted to say that I'm incredible grateful for the people that helped and me guidance about school, work and personal life even without knowing me. That's definitely change the path of my life
I saved your video for over a month and I finally got a chance to watch today.
11:52
That part!!!!
I’ve been working for the MTA as a third party employee, waiting for the favorable union and benefits coming in house, but both the city and the company have been delaying and making vague promises. I started feeling like this after working 10 months. I am actually willing to take a pay cut, looking for a Medical billing as a CPB. Still looking and am more sure this is the right path as I can start my own billing business over working for the city. I am thankful that I watched this and has helped me not be afraid of taking risks. Thank you!!
Learning to say no might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s a skill worth mastering. You deserve peace, and sometimes, “no” is the bridge that leads you there ❤
Wow 9:37 - this is so real. If you’re not a leader, you become by default a follower. I just experienced this this week and had said yes. Thank you for this perspective, thank you thank you for the reminder
thank you so much for commenting and watching!!!
Not sure how this happened but your video was all I needed to get myself out of bed and continue with my life today. Thank you for doing this Mandy! 🙏
This is confirmation that I need to start going to bed at 7pm and waking up at 2am to work on my dreams. Thank you 💖
loving this energy! sometimes we have to go into beast mode!
You are a timely message from God, sent at just the right moment. Thank you so much for your wisdom and generosity of time ❤
Ladies, it feels SOOOO GOOD to get rid of the shit. Might be the best decision I’ve ever made.
Watching this 22:54 vid is an investment to clear out my space, one step at a time!
It’s crazy how today I planned to get my shit together and you pop up unprovoked. 😭😭💖💕 I’m so thankful you allowed yourself to be available for us, to share your precious time with us~
unprovoked!!! bhahahah i'm laughing. i love it. thank you so much!!
It’s so easy to get trapped in the ego stroking of prestige - especially in a hussle city like NYC. I’m 4 1/2 years in and stepping back to ask what I actually want versus what I’m being conditioned to strive for. This video came at the perfect time. I love your call to action to step up as a leader. We are all capable - we just have to make the choice 💪🏾
energy leakage, depletion of resources in so many forms. started to feel that there are so many mosquitos and vampires just sucking me empty of my internal resources..... i didnt want to feel bitter. being helpful, just want to stay in my own lane. making space for myself, protect my time..... protect my agenda
I feel you!!
I'm adding this to the playlist I repeatedly listen to while I take my long walks!
i'm honored!
Fantastic video! Back in September, I also did the "NOPE" (with people, career and clutter) and am still in the process of making room for myself before taking my next creative step! Thanks for sharing the knowledge, I subscribed!
My husband and I just purchased a house across the country without telling anyone so that we will have a forced nope of space and distraction free zone. We don't know anyone, and we sort of just chose a "random" spot that sounded nice and boring. I'm so excited for the final embers of my current commitments to die out in the spring which after then when we can finally make the move. It's terrifying, but less about the negative "what ifs" and more about the opportunities and possibilities that lie ahead when I'm finally able to devote my time to my mission! Thanks for reminding me why I'm leaving town.
Your dreams are experienced. You don't need to make room for them because a lot of what is called a dream isn't anything that you actually want.
For me, the free labor introduction started in a yoga studio, it’s what they call “Sava”. You work for the owner for no payment because it’s good karma they said lol.
ummmmmm i don't know about that!!! that gives me the ick lol ... so relatable.
Dear Mandy ! I am so grateful for the Universe have given me the opportunity of watch this video! I totally agree when you say that time is the most precious thing in our lives. ❤
Saying no and protecting my time is still an issue even in my late 60s AND I’m running out of time for sure!
I appreciate your making such a great video with an insightful message for me as a grad student, especially since I was a bit burned out last year. I couldn't agree more with your thoughts, and I can't wait to become a better me by prioritizing myself. Cheers, and hope many good things come to you
I actually do this regularly. My Sat and Sun are for my own creative projects where no ones tell me what look right or wrong. It helps me create something I am passionate about and my style. But for Mon-Fri, I do respect my full time job and I do understand that I get paid to help others people dream come to life. oh and my Mon-Fri are crazy lol
you sound so grounded and self aware, i love this.
Love this. Our time is so precious and sacred. Our creativity & dreams are so important.
aww thank you. yes. SO important.
My boss said “you’re gonna miss all this fuzziness when you leave, are you sure?” Well, it sounded as devil to my ears, pushing me away from the time I need so badly to get my shit done. I was literally crying when this video popped on my RUclips screen, afraid of bad decisions. I also don’t know if following my gut is the best option, but not trying would’ve cost my mental health. Thank you for sharing these invaluable insights, Mandy!
hi, your boss sounds annoying, LOL! honestly, like, what a weird guilt-trippy thing to say. not cool! you are on the right path, and don't listen to them!!!
This is great advice. I drain myself every day at corporate grind. 2025 I'm going to look at my schedule like a scientist and super block 🚫 out time for ME. I never do this! 🥹 I'm done living this way. I want to swim 🏊♀️ 40 laps per day am pm, jog a few days a week and do yoga 2x a week. Thank you for this discussion. You are a blessing to us. Thank you 🌷
Let's go!!
Nobody knows about the future but I'm here to take control of mine because I'm the only one responsible and able for it. 18 years in the game of life and I am figuring myself bit by bit. Thank you for sharing your message!!
I've had these thoughts lately. I'm 31. That my energy is lots lower than it was in my 20s and soon ill wish I had the energy I have now. I'm going to take the leap and bet on me, I feel I have the courage and the vision. Thank you for this video ❤
You popped up in my recommendations, and i decided to give this video a listen tonight. Everything you said here are my exact thoughts and feelings, its as if the entire world gaslights you into believing their needs and visions are more valuable or important than yours! What's worse is that they have no regard to hold much or if ANY space for you, because they are too busy being absorbed into their own agenda.
Being able to start carving out that time and space, even when my business is trying to grow and saying no to someone else utilizing my skills and abilities was a huge reassuring message for me to hear. This was the first time I heard anyone else, aside from my own inner dialogue coming to this exact conclusion.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, and I wish you a wonderful Happy New Year of 2025. May many more blessings come your way 💗🙏🏼✨
This video stumbled across my page after weeks of feeling stuck, burnt out, and paralyzed when acting toward my dreams. AThankyou, thank you, THANK YOU for posting this. I am still in awe of these new ways of thinking, and I can't wait for the challenge of saying no to things and sticking to my agenda. Sending tons of love!!!!
Wow, this is on time. I've been thinking about this for a while. Sacrificing my time for others. Being there for people rather than myself. I felt like i dont spend time and invest in me that much. Ive become lazy when it comes to my life. I find myself just scrolling away for hours, and i know my youth is so precious. I should be exploring the world and myself...
new watcher, how did you know i am a perfectionist/high achiever? Then I realised that I'm watching this at 9pm on a Sunday in my downtime. This advice is spot on the sort of things that keep cropping up as I graduate and slowly join the working world. I do my best to keep my work in my working hours. And being part-time, that means that there is a lot of moments where I'm not working and I feel like I sort of should be, even when I have met my working hours for the week. You are do right. Don't feel bad. I'm doing my best. And this is my time to enjoy.
Wow, this is exaclty how I went through a severe burnt out and depression. I'm still recovering from the damage but I'm super glad I was finaly able to block everything and spent a complete alone time for months. I stoped doing anything, meeting anybody, being on messenger or social media. After about 3 months of resting, I started to realized what I had been doing wrong for myself, which is what you are explaining over here. I wish I knew this sooner. I'm so much happier doing so much less now. 😊
I subscribed because at 60 years old I still don’t know how to put myself first and I am often depressed I thought when I retired it would be time enough at last (twilight zone toss-😂) but no because I am too busy still people pleasing and worrying that someone will be mad at me! But sorry not sorry 2025 is the year for change!
every time i hear about a life coach, they always happen to be the most interesting and wisest person in the room. they are fr your life’s cheerleader.
I really resonated with this video… i have yet to put my degree to use, I love the idea of working with it… yet there’s this pressure , family & societal to have children because “it will only get harder” but i am not ready for that I want to pursue my dream without pressures
thank you so much
Such a valuable video! I’m so glad I watched this, thank you for sharing your wisdom!
you just need enough money to survive... tackle that goal and go for that dream! student loans will be ther when you're on the other side LOL it can wait.😂
This is some of the realest shit I've heard Mandy.. As someone who was laid off from a company that literally told me "everything was gonna be fine" a week prior and decided to repost my job position 2 weeks prior to my last day without notifying me of departure, (I checked the company website and saw the position for a 3rd LESS than what I was paid.) Best thing to happened now I get to focus on a new career path. All the people I supported and thought I was cool with never reached out or nothing... Maybe 2 or 3 people but it be like that I got to make my dreams come true. This just makes it easier for me to get to where I need to be 💯
As a business owner & mom… listen. THIS IS INVALUABLE INFORMATION!! 🔥🔥
Thank you so much for this video! I finished my master's in graphic design this year, and have been in a bit of a limbo ever since... Managed to work on a really cool project that paid well, but I have no interested in working in a design studio or agency making someone else's dream a reality. However, the pressure to have something figured out is really crippling, so thank you for making me realize that it's okay to keep this field open and protecting this space, so that my yes can flourish!
Girlll!!! This is probably the single most relatable, helpful, and actually tangible video I’ve ever watched about this topic. So many truths in this. Most videos are regurgitated bullshit we’ve heard a million times or lofty thoughts that are lacking actionable steps
!!! this is so nice. it's honestly so kind because i try really hard to write everything so that it's real and original. like i can't stand regurgitated BS either so i'm trying to create the content that i would want to watch. this is why this comment is so supportive!
The way you live your day is the way you live your life! You can never ever under any circumstances, get that day back. A No you have, a Yes you can get.
hello shakespeare!!! i love it.
This is such an important message! I’m 27 and figuring out what I want to do -- and releasing the idea of “HOW”. Thank you for this conviction and passion. Appreciate you ✨
I’m so glad you’re figuring it out - and letting go of “how” can be so freeing!
I’m so glad I discovered this channel. I’m turning 30 this year and realized I was giving my time to so many things and people that I didn’t give to myself. I’m currently on my own journey to starting all over again and refocusing on myself. I got married, moved out, looking at going back to school again and re-evaluating what I want and need.
12:45 This is synchronistic. I am currently a job coach and considering working for myself. Mine is part-time, too.
im watching this stoned af and i honestly can't tell if it's because of that but i think she is so fierce and EATING US all up, go off Mandy
BHAHAHAHAH stoned af is the best way to watch these videos, really
So true, so much people fritter their time away and they want you to do the same. Stay focus!!!
You have no idea how the timing is beyond incredibly perfect for your video coming accross my feed!!!!!!!!! thank you!!!!!
OMGGG thank you!!
this video came up to me in such a right time!! 💗 I have been seriously planning to quit my job since the start of the year (even though it’s been in the back of my mind for years at this point) and I have a very important event coming up soon that I have to take weeks off work for. I have been planning to quit just before that. Right now though there is a lot of going on at my job and it’s very hectic which made me question if I am doing the right decision or ”letting others down”. Especially when I don’t really have a plan what I am going to do next. But I rarely choose myself so now I have to. I really need rest after a very physical job and take time for my creative pursuits. Time to put myself first and not keep burning myself out 💕
I genuinely appreciate your time and effort in making this video. Im 28 and I’ve found myself in these exact situations all year long. Thank you for ur advice ❤
Thank you for saying this, I’ve been struggling to balance between “work” and my passion, I’m so burnt out once I come back from work, sometimes I distract myself by focusing on a personal goal that is also not my business!! We really need this community so thank you
i have lost every dream and just continues day by day
I really needed this video. I recently lost my mom, and it’s been hard to find motivation for anything. I’ve been questioning the future and whether it’s worth it. While I know these feelings are part of the grieving process, I don’t want this grief to consume me or define my life.
You described my life like teacher. I give so much of my time and I can't do my own things (my languages studies, my draws, my paitings), even saying no sometimes and be seen as a person who doesn't like work, I just abandonned my art last year. It's hard think about this.
Couldn’t agree more, with 2 toddlers, those two hours before they wake up and after they go to sleep are so precious.
I love how RUclips always recommended me the best things I have ever wish for !